Five Strategies to Help you Break Free of What is Standing Between You and Your Success – It’s Value Time
Posted in Charging for your services, Entrepreneurial mindset, Environments for Success and tagged with business growth, good enough, know your worth, mindset blocks, personal value on 07/26/2010 08:00 am by Therese SkellyDo you see how the puzzle is fitting together as we’ve worked through Traps 1 and 2? How our mindset really does influence our outcomes and being conscious is key to business success.
How many times have you heard yourself (or someone you know) say mindset block #3 – Everyone already knows this. This little bugger is the thing that keeps your great ideas inside you, has you comparing yourself to everyone else, and has your income hitting the skids in some ways because you may be devaluing what you know. It looks like this…you get an idea for a new program or product and then talk yourself out of it because that monkey mind who reminds you that everyone has heard this before, you aren’t that much of an expert anyway, and who the heck do you think you are! Ok, maybe I’m exaggerating a teensy bit, but loads of great service providers are wandering around talking themselves out of their brilliance with the crazy story that what they want to launch in the world doesn’t have value.
Are you seeing a theme here? Notice that many of the mindset blocks really boils down to the issue of undervaluing ourselves.
So how do you believe that not everyone knows what you want to teach? Do some research. You could either ask your clients, find forums or other places where your ideal clients hang out, put questions on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn or the social networking sites, or notice the themes that come up as you work with people. That will show you that there are specific problems that you are an expert in solving. I’d encourage you to make a list of the things that you have expertise in solving.
Here too is where we come to the place of there not being any competition because you have your unique style. You could be presenting Anthony Robbins’ stuff word for word and put your spin on it with your personality, and it would be fresh to your listeners! But too often we don’t take into account our experiences and world view and our way of working. The key here is owning your style.
Mindset trap #4 is what keeps most of our good ideas on the shelf, and that’s the belief that it needs to be perfect. This is a tricky one because no one wants to put out schlocky work, but if this one gets hold of you, the result is that of a hamster on the wheel. I have seen so much money, talent, time and potential wasted in the quest to achieve that “just right” state, that it’s mind boggling. This may be you if you aren’t launching your ideas because you have to “get it just right” or “do some more research” or “take another training” before you are enough or your work is ready to roll out.
My “BFF” and super-coach Shawn Driscoll always tells her clients to get it 70% done and get it out. You can always tweak a bit later, but the secret here is to master your ability to self soothe when that little gremlin pops in telling you that it’s not good enough. The next key is in having accountability and hard deadlines. Announce to your list that you are creating a product. Tell them when it will be ready, and it’s even ok if you tell them it’s a “Beta” launch while you are working the kinks out. Lots of people charge a bit less for this, so there’s not the feeling that you are charging a ton and giving a less than perfect product.
I should also say it here that if you have this pattern in your business, it’s also showing up in your life…I guarantee! So keeping with George of Seinfeld and the Opposite Day theme, do something different! Go out without make up or whatever for you would represent breaking the perfection pattern. You will eventually learn that good is good enough! Of course we strive for excellence and I’m not saying to settle, but if perfection is the thing that’s costing you money because you are holding your stuff back, settle for getting it out first and then looking for improvement. And remember that it’s a process, not an event.
You don’t want to miss the final discussion about Trap 5 because most, if not all people have fallen victim to this one at least sometime in their lives. Find out how to overcome it for good!
Blessings,
Therese







July 26th, 2010 at 8:18 am
Therese…you are right on with this!
And of course it came along at the perfect time for me.
I can so easily get caught up in the mindset that my great idea is not what people want.
Right now I have been working to complete my first real product and am having a hard time feeling like it is complete. I noticed that I was getting caught up in the layout of it..obsessing over how it looked on the page. Come on…that is not really all that important at this point in time!
Rock on!
Leah
.-= Leah Shapiro´s last blog ..But it is Scary in There! The challenges of going within =-.
July 26th, 2010 at 9:08 am
Hey Leah,
Glad I could “bust ya” a bit so you get your stuff out there. And yes…the world wants what you have! Good for you for having the courage to get it out there.
Blessings,
July 26th, 2010 at 11:40 am
Well said, Therese. Over and over I have seen clients devalue their services because it comes so easy to them. They don’t realize this is because they have connected with their true gift and talent. There is a difference, however, between our gift and something which we are excellent at, but is not our unique gift. When you are accessing your gift then it is easy and just flows through you. You actually get energy from the service you are providing. When it is something you are excellent at, but not your gift, you will do it well but it is likely to be boring for you. It does not give you that same energy boost. The goal is to set your business up so your day is spent sharing your gifts with your clients.
July 26th, 2010 at 9:53 pm
Thanks Loren, this was so well said. I love how you distinguished being a gift versus having excellence. I appreciate your wise perspective.
Take care,
Therese