Just got off the phone with my coach, Richard. And I feel full. Not just full, but loved. Really deeply loved. Does that sound weird? And what does love have to do with business?

A couple of years ago when I decided to take the next step in transforming my life and business, I knew that I wasn’t to work with a business coach or a marketing strategist. A bit of “been there, done that” going on, and I have loads of smart friends if I need a quick dose of strategy.

What I knew I needed was to do the really deep work. The kind where you tear away all of the old foundation, get ready and willing to let go of all you’ve ever known before, and face the scary places where you learn to create from desire versus fear.

So much surrender….Maybe some of you can relate.

That’s the work I’ve been doing the past two years with Richard, and it has truly changed the way I work with my clients.

But the session today has me ask myself these questions –

Do I let my clients know that I love them?

Do I tell them with all of my being how much I believe in them?

Am I a big enough stand for their greatness?

Because that’s what Richard does for me.  Totally. Even the sessions where I have felt really hurt or lost or vulnerable, he still just loves me right where I am. And it’s been the most powerful thing I have ever experienced.  Because there is no greater gift than the ability to be seen, be loved, and be completely held with love.  Nothing even comes close to that.

But most of us hold back in expressing that stuff. I know we feel it. We want the best for our clients, but may believe we’d cross some lines or blur the boundaries if we really allowed our hearts to open up and let them know how we feel.

If you think about it though – isn’t that EXACTLY what your clients want and need from you? No matter what the service you are selling, I know that your belief in them and your holding a container for their greatness is the very thing that will make all the difference in the world.

So why hold back?  I know for me, I was a little shy at first about telling someone I love them. Not any more though.  I do it from time to time and when someone comes to a call maybe having a bad day or in a negative space, I just ask them to take a breath and then I gently communicate that I love them right where they are. You can feel them soften as they stop beating themselves up for a moment. It’s like some magic moment occurs where they relax and can move forward with a bit more ease.

Yet, in order to share love, we have to BE love.  You can’t give what you don’t have.  Richard used to frequently tell me that I needed to ‘fill up my love tank.’  If I woke up and wasn’t feeling so hot, I had a couple of wonderful women I would call and just ask them to “love me up.”  Now from a former “I’m-fine-I-don’t-need-anyone” kinda gal, this was a huge stretch to ask people to be there for me in that way.  To face my own vulnerability and let people know that I needed something didn’t come naturally.  But the results were amazing.  And when I am full, I can pass that on.

Let me ask you this….Is it radical to think that love would make a business run better? No more so that to think that love would make a family run better.

I’m gonna challenge us all to open our hearts. See if there’s a tiny bit of space to communicate more appreciation.  Say the things you have only thought.  Make someone’s day by acknowledging them.  And open your heart.

Notice the response you get. I know you all have huge visions for helping, and I’m asking you to take a step deeper. Take a risk.  Share how you feel.  And watch everything change.